The New Mom’s Survival Guide to Unsolicited Advice
Congratulations, girl!
You’re pregnant and about to start the most amazing, chaotic, wild ride of your life. But as soon as you announce it, suddenly everyone and their mother (literally) has advice for you. Some might help, sure—but most of it just leaves you feeling confused, overwhelmed, and honestly? Annoyed as hell.
Unsolicited advice stings because it often feels like people are saying they don’t trust you to make your own choices. Here’s the reality: when someone dishes out advice you didn’t ask for, it’s usually more about them than you.
So what counts as unsolicited advice? Glad you asked:
It’s criticism.
It’s intrusive.
It’s condescending.
It’s self-serving.
It’s presumptive.
It’s unhelpful.
And if you’re planning a birth or parenting style that isn’t mainstream, brace yourself—there’s going to be even more of it. Suddenly, everyone has a horror story, a “reason” you’re making the “wrong” choice, or a thousand “Yeah, but…” follow-ups. They’ll project their fears onto you and expect you to adjust your life to soothe their anxieties.
But here’s the thing: you don’t have to absorb any of it.
Your Survival Guide for Dealing with Unsolicited Advice
Smile and Nod
Take a deep breath, flash a polite smile, and say, “Thanks.” You don’t owe anyone your explanations or justifications—even if you’ll never follow their advice.
Set Boundaries
If someone keeps pushing, it’s time to be assertive: “Thanks for your concern, but I’ve done my research and feel confident in my choices.” You are the one carrying this baby—you get to make the decisions for your body and your family.
Find Your Humans
Surround yourself with people who support your choices. Join natural birth groups, prenatal yoga classes, or online communities with like-minded mamas. These are the spaces where you can vent, ask questions, and feel validated.
Learn Stuff
Knowledge is power. Read books, take classes, talk to your care provider, and stick to resources that align with your values. When you’re informed, you can respond to unsolicited advice confidently—even back it up with facts when you feel like it.
Trust Your Gut
At the end of the day, nobody knows your body or your baby better than you. If it feels off, speak up. If it feels right, own it.
And here’s an extra tip that many new moms don’t realize: your postpartum recovery matters just as much as your birth choices. Moms in South Jersey, Philadelphia, and Central Jersey are turning to placenta encapsulation to support mental health, energy, and milk supply after birth. Placenta pills can help ease postpartum anxiety and depression, support hormone balance, and promote physical recovery. And when you work with me, you’re not just getting placenta encapsulation—you’re getting guidance every step of the way. I’m trained as a Perinatal Mental Health Specialist with Postpartum Support International, so I know how to support you through the fourth trimester and help you feel confident, informed, and empowered.
Motherhood is your journey—don’t let unsolicited advice shake your confidence. Stay strong, stay curious, and stay true to yourself. Click here to learn more about placenta encapsulation in South Jersey, Central Jersey, and Philadelphia, and how I can support you through a healthy, confident, and supported postpartum recovery.
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