Learn to Set Boundaries As A New Mom
I was terrible at creating boundaries when I first became a mom. Hell, I don’t think I had even heard the term “set boundaries” until my kids were already in elementary school. And looking back, it’s crystal clear how much unnecessary stress my lack of boundary skills caused me during those early months.
Here’s the truth: creating and enforcing boundaries teaches others how to treat us. Boundaries tell people what we’re willing to tolerate, what will happen if they’re crossed, and what outcomes we expect. And while it can feel uncomfortable at first, learning to communicate clearly and confidently is one of the best gifts you can give yourself—and your baby—during the fourth trimester.
The Realities of Setting Boundaries
Some of the toughest conversations as a parent involve topics like:
Sleep (who gets it and when)
Nursing on demand
Wearing shoes in the house
Touching or holding the baby
Discipline methods
What foods your baby eats
For natural-minded moms doing things differently than society expects, these conversations can get emotional—especially with family. Parents, in particular, may take it personally. That’s okay. Communicate love, appreciation, and reassurance that your choices aren’t a judgment on their parenting. You’re simply doing things differently because it aligns with your values.
Tips for Communicating Boundaries
Use "I" statements: “I feel uncomfortable when…” or “I need…”
Set consequences: Let people know the action you’ll take if your boundary is crossed.
Don’t back down: Be consistent. Exceptions undermine your boundaries.
Communicate respectfully: Avoid accusatory language or judgment.
Practice assertiveness: Stand firm while respecting others.
Listen: Understand their perspective, but remain clear about your needs.
Seek support: Lean on friends or professionals if you need guidance.
Keep it simple: A concise, clear boundary is easier to remember and respect.
Do not justify: Your boundaries are valid because they matter to you, not because you need to explain them.
Use sandwich statements: Start and end with a positive comment; place your boundary in the middle. Example: “I really appreciate your help, but I need you to call before dropping by. That would mean a lot to me.”
Practice makes perfect. Start in front of a mirror, then try strangers or acquaintances before tackling big family discussions.
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