Mother's Day Thoughts

Mother's Day is almost here, and I wanted to share some thoughts about it. Seems like every year I go on about how much I hate Mother’s Day. I do it because I know I’m not alone. Unfortunately, Moms from every walk of life have a reason, or reasons, to dread this day.

Mother’s Day has been a complicated holiday for me for some time now. On my first Mother's Day in 2008, I was still deep in the throes of grief after losing my first baby. The years following, when I had my other kiddos, the day was consistently filled with disappointment. No breakfast in bed, no special moments made just for me... if I didn’t plan something, nothing happened. It was just another day with some unmet expectations sprinkled in. 

Eventually, I decided that what I really wanted for Mother’s Day was to be alone. I was never alone. I homeschooled. I co-slept. I didn’t get days off. I didn’t even get hours off. And it did a real number on my nervous system.

So I started encouraging my ex-husband to stick the kids in the car and drive an hour and a half to spend the day with his mother. I asked him not to return until bedtime. 

I'd spend the morning cleaning and organizing or just sitting on my ass enjoying the feeling of not being needed. I’d then spend the afternoon with my mom in her backyard, sharing adult beverages and having uninterrupted conversations.

This year feels different. My kids are older now - 11 and 16 - and I’ve decided I no longer want to loathe Mother’s Day. So I gave them each $50 and said, "Work together to help me have a great Mother's Day." 

We'll see what happens! 😅

Motherhood looks so different for everyone. Some of you might be celebrating for the first time, some might be watching your grown children become parents themselves, and some might be carrying the weight of loss this weekend, whether that be the loss of a pregnancy, a child, or of your own mother. Wherever you are in your journey, I see you. And I am sending you big love.

Expanding My Services to Honor More Placentas

As I've shared my own journey with motherhood, I've also been expanding the ways I can support other parents who want to keep their placentas from being trashed. While many people think of placenta encapsulation when they hear about placenta services, I now offer lots of other options to honor this incredible organ.

If you’re still being asked what you want for Mother’s Day this year, consider asking for a meaningful placenta keepsake.

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I’m Tiff, a certified placenta specialist, and I’m on a mission to keep more placentas out of the trash. You can learn about my services here: The Placenta Girl